Breaking a Cycle, Creating a Healthier Pattern

The Shadow of Men

From the man who raped my mother

An act that resulted in my birth
The passing of a shadow
Of violence, rage, hurt, hatred
A shadow so big that it has touched the lives of so many
That man convicted and sentenced
Crime upon crime, to the young, to the younger

The shadow was handed down to my would be father.
It devoured and consumed the man.
The shadow proved bigger than he.

My mother cannot sit with me
Because she sees that man
The man who beat and raped her
My mother was touched as a child
By the shadows of men
She told me as a boy that I would be like them
That I would be a monster
The disgust in her eyes, the loathing in her words
The rage in her fists, the hurt, the hate
The passing of a shadow

The shadow was handed down to my mother.
It devoured and consumed the woman.
The shadow proved bigger than she.

My step father would sit in the dark with his shadow
Waiting for my mother to come home
She chose to party instead
So I as a small child was my step fathers punching bag
Dragging me out of bed by my hair
Punching me, kicking me, throwing me against the wall
Every night the hate in his eyes, the rage in his fists, and his hurt
The passing of a shadow

The shadow was handed down to my father.
It devoured and consumed the man.
The shadow proved bigger than he.

My children were born of love
They sleep safe
Unlike their father they were wanted and cherished
Adored, and safe
No shadow of violence, no rage or hate
They know nothing of that shadow
To those that touched me
To those that beat me and kept me small
Know that the shadows were handed down.
I devoured and consumed them
I proved bigger than the shadows given to me
I stood up and battled those demons
And my children are free.

(‘The Shadow of Men’, 2016 | By Tim Tipene)

How many of you continue to ruminate about the past and using it as an excuse for your present circumstances?

You take it as a lifelong feeling. But it is NOT!

How many inner children, living in adult bodies, remain locked in their childhoods, trapped to a situation, to a person, to an event?

By living with those wounds, which seem to be healed on the surface but which continues fermenting at the deepest level, you’re perpetuating your internal struggle, your suffering with impact on you, your children, and all those who cross your path.

Speak out! Throw everything out to start the internal healing process.

But once it’s done, it’s done.
It’s not good practice to be constantly remembering the event, the person. By doing so, you are reinforcing that memory and therefore giving it more power, and you don’t want that. You want to release it and start to live better experiences.

If you require support to break free from the negative emotions, don’t wait any longer. Stop perpetuating your suffering. There is always a better way.

We are so fortunate to live in an era where there is so many  good resources, professionals that can help you. Find someone who can help you to set you free.
Do it for yourself, do it for your loved ones.

You were born to live an abundant life; good health, wealth, relationships.

🌼 Don’t limit yourself
🌼 Don’t be conditioned by your past
🌼 You can always start over

I hope all this made sense, and gave you a different perspective and  hope.

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